Hi! I’m Alejandra (they/them).

Looking for therapy can be really hard, and I’m so glad you’re doing it.

Maybe it’s like you’re about to drown in overwhelm, and you wish you could catch your breath.

Maybe that out-of-control urge exploded again, and you wish you could find that kind of relief without all the mess afterward.

Maybe it exploded in one or more of your relationships, and you don’t know what to do, but you feel unspeakably lost or lonely about it.

Maybe at times you’ve given up on life being worth living.

Maybe other times you do everything you can think of to survive.

Or maybe your partner, your teenager, your adult kiddo. or someone else you love is going through things like this, and you’ve got your own work to do in order to be helpful to them without losing yourself.

I’m here for all that.

In a Nutshell

I’m a registered psychotherapist with 15+ years of professional practice and 40+ years of life.

I offer dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) that’s grounded in antiracism and informed by a number of other therapy frameworks.

While I stay fully within the structure and essentials of DBT, I take an integrative approach that’s also informed by Ego State Therapy, somatics, Narrative Therapy, EMDR Therapy and Trauma-Informed Stabilization Treatment (TIST).

I see my work as helping my clients to grow compassion and curiosity toward their reality, just as it is— crises, losses, harmdoing, oppressions and all. The paradox here is that this accepting stance then helps my clients to grow that very same reality into something kinder, safer, and more just, fulfilling and sustainable. Together we can learn to surf the waves of emotion and find what’s embodying and freeing about them.

Click here for more about my training, experiences and political commitments.

Who Are the People I Work With?

I serve clients who live in Ontario via remote-only video services.

I work with people impacted by “BPD / BPD traits,” DID, dissociative “disorders,” relationship-emotion dysregulation and/or suicidal behaviours. All of my clients are touched somehow by one of these experiences, whether this is because they experience it themselves or because one of their loved ones does. To work with me, you must be age 18+ and meet at least one of the following descriptions:

  • you navigate, identify with or believe you may be navigating “borderline personality disorder-or-traits,” relationship-emotion dysregulation or any anti-ableist term for a “BPD”-related profile;

  • you navigate, identify with or believe you may be navigating Dissociative Identity “Disorder” (DID) (aka Dissociative Identity Response) or another dissociative “disorder,” and you’re looking for some stabilizing work in DBT before you proceed to do long-term trauma work with your next therapist;

  • you navigate suicidal and/or self-injury related behaviours;

  • you engage in actions that worsen or threaten your relationship(s), for example things like yelling, accusations, begging, nagging, pleading, blaming, baiting, threats, name-calling, boundary-crossing, harassment, put-downs, criticism, physical force, etc.;

  • you engage in mild-to-moderate alcohol or drug overuse;

  • you engage in bingeing or purging that doesn’t result in medically dangerous malnutrition;

  • you’re the partner, parent or any other loved one of someone having any of the above experiences, and you’re looking to focus on developing the skills and capacity you need to support their wellness and your own at the same time.

I Don’t Work With…

  • anyone with a primary diagnosis of anorexia or who is engaging in significant food restriction, or anyone whose eating-related behaviours are causing medically dangerous malnutrition (i.e., a BMI of less than 17);

  • anyone with a primary diagnosis of OCD or psychosis;

  • anyone who is experiencing an active manic episode;

  • couple’s therapy or constellation therapy, although I do offer parenting therapy to co-parents who happen to be a couple or constellation.

How Often Are Sessions?

Weekly. This is because we’ll be working pretty hard including phone coaching between your weekly sessions, and meeting less often than weekly (e.g., biweekly or monthly) just doesn’t work well with this format.

How to Get Started

Click here to check for spot availability and apply for a free 60min initial phone consultation.

Alejandra Lindan, MMT, RP
Registered Psychotherapist #001976